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As we attempt to make sense/meaning of what has befallen some communities
in diaspora,in this case the United States,it might help to address some of the
known contributing factors.
The first thing that comes into my mind is the slowness/quickness of making
changes. Conventional wisdom dictates that when you migrate to a new place,among
the first things to do, is to study the environment,understand ,know the
advantages/disadvantages or consequences of doing this or that, and then make
needed changes or adjustments. But that is not the case with many people. How
so?
Its a known factor that some people are hard to change or adjust. Many
migrate to USA in body but remain in their native land by the way they think and
do things.Some men happen to fall into this category.They expect or should I say
demand that things be done the way they were done back in their native land.
Don't want to cook,wash dishes, vacuum, or do those other things that the new
environment demands. |
On the other hand,we have those with the attitude of "anything goes" They
are quick to adopt and swim in the new environment with all that it offers.This
group of people never stop to question how their way of doing or viewing things
will affect those that they love.In many ways,this group misunderstand and
misapply their suppossedly new found freedom. Some women and youth/children
happen to fall here.
This latter group want to do anything they feel like without being
questioned. Their best phrase is"this is America". By that they mean that they
can misbehave,disobey,drink, abuse drugs,hang around with whoever they want
without any body saying anything. All these in the name of freedom.
And with thiese two different approach of dealing with change, many
families find themselves driving in different directions.Slowry but surely,it
leads to logger heads, lack of communication, regreting the decision to migrate
to USA and a sense of helplessness,hopelessness, isolation and a desire to get
out of this world by taking with them those who have caused them pain.Very bad
indeed. |